what else can you expect?
Someone made the following comment on this post:
“popping up only occasionally to tell me about some new sex or porn-related scheme she’d come up with, as if I incapable of having any thoughts of the less than prurient kind.”
And you expect what? You market yourself as a pioneer of alternative porn (or even start a blog about *not* being a porn star) and people are going to think of porn every time they think of you.
Which is, perhaps, the central issue that comes up when you’re involved in pornography, or really just when you happen to be open about your sexuality, period.
People make a lot of assumptions about me. People assume that I’m a sexual compulsive, people assume that I am somehow incapable of having thoughts that aren’t about sex, people assume that I’m a two-dimensional creature composed of little more than pudenda.
And it’s funny, right? Because even when you market yourself as intelligent porn, even when you market yourself as “brains and boobs,” it’s always the boobs that people come back to, it’s always the tits that furnish your paycheck.
And if you try to rise above it all, if you try to protest, you will always get smacked down: because you put yourself out there, you bared your breasts, and now you are doomed to walk around with a scarlet P emblazoned on your chest for the rest of your days.
Let me put it to you this way: if I had had any other job, followed any other calling, would people react so vehemently when I complained about being pigeonholed?
I’d expect a lot of it, because it’s an intereating topic, but you seem to be implying that it was all that people saw in you, which is unhappy. Beyond sex being intensley interesting, why do you think that was so much of people’s focus in dealing with you?
if someone who was a doctor complained that people assumed they were interested in medicine, it would make just as little sense though. a person’s job is a facet of who they are, but it isn’t everything
Don’t be so ridiculous. Grow up and accept that by selling your body to make a quick buck you’ve made a fuck-up that is gonna grow old with you. Deal with it.
As you get older you’ll realise what a joke being ‘open about your sexuality’ is too. Your sex drive is there to help you form an emotional bond with someone…it’s not something you’re supposed to give in to completely…you need to understand it and control it just like every other instinct. Or perhaps you shit, piss and punch spontaneously whenever your emotions determine an action?
This society is full of people who want cake all day every day.
You seem to be getting nothing but more abuse from the commenters above, so I had to write something. Open sexuality and emotional bonding are hardly mutually exclusive. In fact, I would say that women in particular become most open when they are most emotionally aroused and committed.
A big brain with sex on it does mean more sex.
Whoever left that original comment in the last post was a huge jackass. That type of person doesn’t care about anyone, which is a terrible fate.